Wednesday, March 29, 2006

珍惜所爱


After 21 years of marriage, my wife wanted me to take 
another
woman out to dinner and a movie. She said I
love
you but I know this other woman loves you and
would love to
spend some time with you.

The other woman that my wife wanted me to visit was 
my
MOTHER, who has been a widow for 19 years,
but the
demands of my work and my three children
 had made
it possible to visit her only occasionally.

That night I called to invite her to go out for dinner 
and a
movie.

"What's wrong, are you well," she asked? 
My mother
is the type of woman who suspects that
a late night call
or a surprise invitation is a sign of
bad news.

"I thought that it would be pleasant to spend some 
time with  you," I responded.
"Just the two of us."

She thought about it for a moment, and then said, 
"I
would like that very much."

That Friday after work, as I drove over to pick her up I was a bit nervous. 
When I arrived at her house, I
noticed that she, too, seemed to be nervous
 about our date. She
waited in the door with her coat on. She had curled
her hair
and was wearing the dress that she had worn to celebrate her last
wedding anniversary. She smiled from a face that
was as radiant
as an angel's.

"I told my friends that I was going to go out with my son, and they were impressed, "she 
said, as she got into the car. "They
can't wait to hear about our meeting".

We went to a restaurant that, although not elegant, was very nice and cozy. My mother took
my arm as if she
were the First Lady. After we sat down, I had to read the menu.

Her eyes could only read large print. Half way through the entries , I lifted my eyes and saw
Mom sitting there staring
at me. A nostalgic smile was on her lips.

"It was I who used to have to read the menu when you were small," she said.

"Then it's time that you relax and let me return the favor," I responded.

During the dinner, we had an agreeable conversation nothing extraordinary, but catching up
on recent events of
each other's life. We talked so much that we missed the movie.

As we arrived at her house later, she said, "I'll go out with you again, but only if you let me 
invite you." I
agreed.

"How was your dinner date?" asked my wife when I got home.

"Very nice. Much more so than I could have imagined," I answered.

A few days later, my mother died of a massive heart attack. It happened so suddenly that I
didn't have a
chance to do anything for her.

Some time later, I received an envelope with a copy of a restaurant receipt from the same
place mother and
I had dined.

An attached note said: "I paid this bill in advance. I wasn't sure that I could be there; but 
nevertheless, I
paid for two plates - one for you and the other for your wife. You will never
know what that night meant for me. I love
you, son."

At that moment, I understood the importance of saying in time: "I LOVE YOU!" and to give
our loved ones the time that they deserve. Nothing in life is more important than God and
your family. Give them the time they deserve, because these things cannot be put off
till "some other time."

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